There are ups and downs in our life. Sometimes we go through troubles and sometimes we find our life little smoother. There is no one who is out of this rule. Suffering from problems is very natural in our life and is common to every life on earth. It is also not unusual to say “I am the only one who is suffering with such serious problem.” Do we bother to understand what others are going through? Is it not good to make enquiry to know what others are into? If we do so we may find how we are not in some exceptional condition.

In this context, let me narrate the story of a farmer who visited Buddha to find a solution to his problems. One day a farmer visited Lord Buddha to tell all about his sufferings and to have the Lord’s to overcome those problems. When the farmer was asked to explain the types of problem he was suffering from, he informed that he was a farmer, and his family depended on cultivation. Due to natural disasters like scarcity of rain or heavy rain, he could not grow enough crops to sell or to feed his family. They had to regularly deal with acute poverty. His family was very unhappy with him and disobeyed and disrespected him. Besides, there were other problems in his life. The farmer explained about his other problems as well. After listening to him carefully, Lord Buddha said that he counted the numbers of problem and it was eighty-three in total. Farmer confirmed that he had no other problem. Lord said that he was unable to solve those eighty-three problems. Farmer was very shocked at this and told “you are the Lord, and if you cannot resolve my difficulties, why do others say that you solve every one’s problems”. Lord replied, “yes, though I cannot help you in solving these eighty-three problems, but I can solve your eighty fourth problem. Your eighty fourth problem is to worry about those eighty-three problems.  If you stop thinking about the problems you have, you will find that your life has become smoother and happier.”

If we take our personal problems as a part of life and accept and move ahead, then we get better life experiences and a confident nature. Let us now try to deal with our problems through the following few great ways:

• Take Doctor’s advice if you have health problem or mental anxiety which is difficult to manage yourself.
• Take help from others including your loved ones, friends, relatives, or neighbors if you cannot deal with the problem alone. Do not hide the problem, discuss with others. Take suggestions. Hiding may increase the problem.   
• Express your thoughts and share your ideas
• Take responsibility of self and others- Once you proactively start taking responsibility, you will realize that there are many issues in addition to your own that need a care.
• Make a daily plan-Once you realize what your problem is and how is it disturbing your life, act on chalking out a daily plan to methodically deal with the problem.
• Try to express gratitude to everyone around for every little support you get. Thank the Almighty God for his kindness and support.
• Think positively and never let yourself down.
• Face fear and remember there is no way to escape.
• Accept problems- Accept the problem you are going through and face it yourself, without depending on others.
• Try to understand others problem and help them
• Learn from the problem and guide others in future. Reframe the problem to try and enjoy a better life.
• Share your experiences with others when they are finding difficulty facing their personal struggle.
• Remain engaged in multiple work throughout the day unless you get tired to get a good night’s sleep.
• Engage more with your work of interest and do not sit idle and kill time.
• Practice more patience
• Always keep a smile on your face
• Be confident and deal with the problem. Remember this will give you more confidence and mental strength.
• Increase your energy level through fitness exercises. Read books and find out a hobby that you can enjoy daily.
• Be more attentive to others
• Be bold in thinking, firm in expressing, and ensure that you move steadily.

Hope you will get benefitted. Remain motivated and try and help yourself and others. I can assure that your life will be full of charm and the lessons of life will help you to deal with more difficult problems more efficiently.

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